by Dear Abby: I am an adult child of an alcoholic. My mother is a mean drunk. As I grew up, I had to act as her therapist and deal with her co-dependence. I was lucky that I have incorporated a lot from the trauma in therapy and now have a loving and healthy family of myself. We avoid Mama active after 3 p.m. because I don’t want my children to be subjected to her cruelty. I don’t think it’s healthy for them to be in the vicinity of abuse, drunk people.
I am pregnant. My mother has always wanted to be in the delivery room for a birth. However, I prefer that she is not in the delivery room with us. I don’t want to be around when she is drunk because of her tendency to make everything about herself, to cause drama and to get up. I prefer not to deal with her narcissism during giving birth.
We had our first child during the Covid Pandemie, so we had an excuse not to have her there. The birth was extremely traumatic and we are lucky that our child has made it. My meter wants to be in the delivery room because she could never have her own children. I would like her to be there. We are very close and get along well. How can I use the issue of wanting my meter there, but not my alcoholic mother? – News
Best deliver: So: stop pussyfooting on the subject and be completely honest against your mother. This birth -experience is for YouNot for her. The patient must be calm and relaxed and not be exposed to poisonous energy Because an increase in the mother’s blood pressure can negatively influence the baby. If you offer meter the emotional support you need, your hair should have with you and do not have to apologize for it.
Dear Abby: My friend “Cindra” has two children. Both are home schooled and unable to do many things on their own. Cindra and I have very different views and philosophies about raising children. My children are about the same age as her children. Because her children were babies, she allowed her daughter and son to sleep with her and her husband.
Cindra’s daughter is now 11 and her son is 9. The girl has started puberty and it seems inappropriate for the children to still sleep with their parents at this age. I care about her children and I am worried about their well -being. Do I have to confront Cindra about this? Or would I cross the border with that? – Another mother in Texas
Dear mother: Parents have the right to raise their children if they consider necessary, as long as there is no abuse. Now that the daughter is about to become a young woman, she is allowed want to To have some privacy. I see nothing to win by calling this topic to Cindra.
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